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wedding vows?

I want to write my own wedding vows. but my b/f doesnt want to because he says he wont know what to say. just woundering how many people did write ther own vows and was it really hard to write them...thanks

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1. im not married yet, planning one though. i wrote my own vows and no they were realy easy. i just sat down and thought about how happy i've been in the years we've been together and the words just came. good luck i under stand he still haven't wrote his yet and i've been done for about a month.
2. I didn't or not going to write my own vows, He knows how I feel and I know how he feels.
3. I think that is a wonderful idea.. You can find some books on that probably at your library and maybe even look it up on the web.. Some songs have very lovable lyrics.. maybe he could change some words and write them for you.. Many possibilities..All he has to do is write down what he feels for you and how much he loves you really.. Maybe you could help him and write them together.. Congratulations on your forthcoming wedding..!!
4. We were thinking about this as well, but decided that it was a lot of stress, and also the things we want to say to each other are not necessarily things we want to say in front of a load of people, and it just adds more stress to the whole day, I can see where your b/f is coming from, I would have sleepless nights trying to put together something that is not tacky sounding. I admire anyone that has a talent for this, but it's not something I feel comfortable doing, we're under enough stress as it is lol....
5. We used the traditional vows from our faith, and they were totally beautiful.
6. I went to a wedding of a close relative recently and her fiance really wanted to write their own vows. (He's a writer by profession so it would be easy for him!) She didn't feel comfortable writing her own vows because things she would say to him aren't necessarily things she wants to broadcast to all her friends and family - she felt her words for her feelings towards him should be kept between the two of them. Instead, they wrote their own vows but in letters, and read them to each other after the wedding. She was much more comfortable with this but still go to say everything she wanted to say to him, just not with a crowd watching. He was happy with this decision as he still got to give her the vows he wanted to. Just a suggestion. Your bf may not be a good writer or may not be comfortable telling you his private feelings in public.
7. We wrote our own vows. Really speak from the heart and you will find it is not as difficult as you thought it might be.
8. I am not doing that, we are just doing a quick wedding. If I was going to write any vows, they wouldn't be all about how I feel towards him. The traditional ones aren't. I think if anyone is going to write them, they should be humorous ones. Those kind would be the most memoriable ones between you to and your guest. Your bf isn't going to remember what you said anyways. They never do. You can use things like, "I promise to take out the trash once a month for you", or like "I promise to wash the dishes every monday", "I won't bother you during a game on tv". "I will watch the children, while you have a girls night out" Thats just my opinion if anyone writes their own vows.